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Episode 10: Helen’s Story

Sometimes we hear stories of massive instant transformation as people stumble across this understanding, but for most of us it can be a gentle, incremental transition. Helen's is one such story. Everything unfolding little by little, then one day there was a simple...

Episode 8: Insight as a Lever for Change

In this episode, John El-Mokadem and I talk about how we attempt to change our behaviours through willpower and being determined. And usually fail. So if you're trying to 'make yourself' go out and about every day or 'stop yourself' drinking wine every night in an...

Episode 7: Hope with Mary Schiller

In today's episode, Mary Schiller shares with me her experiences of being up against some of the worst circumstances a woman could imagine - rape and domestic violence. Now you might think that those circumstances are BOUND to make you feel a certain way. Her story of...

Episode 6: I’m not getting it

If you need anxiety to 'go away' then you'll love this coaching session between one of my clients, Claudia and my Head Coach, Shannon. Claudia asks the questions that so many clients ask about their anxiety so my guess is she'll be asking the ones you'd love to ask...

Episode 5: Health Anxiety with John El-Mokadem

In this episode John and I talk about how actual or feared physical symptoms are created - and how our reaction to them determines how scared we get. We also talk about the distinction between pain and suffering. This all sounds terribly serious and depressing and the...

What Facebook has to teach us about anxiety

I want to share a metaphor with you. Imagine your thinking being like your Facebook Feed. If you sit and watch your Facebook feed it changes all the time with post after post (thought after thought). If you do nothing they just roll on by, and you don't get to control...

Episode 4: Do Less Better with Michael Neil

I created this episode with one of the mentors on my journey from whom I have learned the most. When I discovered the Principles that I teach and share here at A Little Peace of Mind, Michael Neill was the coach at my side during my own transformation from being...

Episode 3: Beyond PTSD with Gail Hooper

"My anxiety is different because I have PTSD." My response to this is often to share the following quote by Sydney Banks: If the only thing people learned was not to be scared of their experience, that alone would change the world.' In this episode, you'll hear how...

Episode 2: What if you didn’t have to fix it?

In this second episode of The Little Peace of Mind Podcast, you'll find me continuing the theme begun in Episode 1. Just what was that I saw that so completely transformed my own relationship with anxiety, and continues to do so in the lives of my clients? Here's...

Episode 1: A Fresh Look at Anxiety

I'm so excited to announce the launch of The Little Peace of Mind Podcast!!! I'm often asked questions such as: 'What about health anxiety?' 'What about the stress of being in business?' 'What about PTSD?' 'Does this work for nurses?' 'Does this apply to my...

“I know it’s just my thinking, but…..”

I know it’s just my thinking but it really looks like my kids are winding me up today.” “I know it’s just my thinking but it looks to me like the lack of sleep I got last night is making me grumpy.” “I know it’s just my thinking but my husband/wife is a selfish pig...

Three things we think cause anxiety that actually don’t

(This post is a follow-up from one I wrote last week: A Life Free of Anxiety?) I get emails from people every single day sharing with me their stories of anxiety and inevitably they tell me what's behind it. "It's been ever since my Mum died." "It happened on a...

A life free from anxiety?

A little while ago, I sat down and created an audio to share my own journey through anxiety and out the other side. I called it Freedom from Anxiety and you can find it at the bottom of this post. I've had so many wonderful emails from people touched by what I shared....

The 84th Problem…

One summer's day back in the early nineties, I was sitting on a friend's floor in our University Hall of Residence and I casually picked up a text book lying on his floor. It was an introduction to Psychology. I had never heard of such a subject before and I was...

“What do I do when I’m having a panicky day?”

I get asked this question more often than any other so wanted to share something her that might give you a fresh perspective (and might even be helpful in the moment you feel you need to click here and read). Warning: It's pretty gross, but hey ho..... Imagine you...

There’s something to see, that when you do, changes anxiety forever

What I share with my clients is a very different way of understanding anxiety - in fact, a very different way of understanding how humans being work in general, that when you see it, changes everything. No techniques, no strategies, nothing to implement, nothing to...

How My Kids Caught My Anxiety

A few years ago I was a micro-managing control freak. And that didn't make me a very nice mother to have. Don't get me wrong, I didn't set out to be one, it was just the panic attacks and anxiety I was experiencing meant that I kind of shrank my world to be smaller...

A Life Of Arbitrary Numbers

As a recent training I was on wrapped up, my small group had our last call together and our group leader asked us to do an exercise where we had to share a word that described our experience of each member of the group. The person being described had to show up on the...

What if anxiety wasn’t so scary?

One of my clients shared this story with me and it touched me so profoundly I wanted to share it with you. It was Halloween Nights of Horror in Universal studios at Disney in October. They had put on a horrific tour that my client was invited to: zombies, bloody-axe...

How over-achievers fuel their own anxiety

Note: if you're more of a go-slow procrastinator this post will look like the rantings of a crazy bitch. If you're an over-achiever, you'll get it. I create my own anxiety and I didn't even realise it. It was like I had a crack habit. This is how bad it was… I got the...

Always Less To Do Than You Think – with Michael Neill

" Almost everyone has the life that's unfolding in front of them, and then the life they're trying to 'make happen'" - Michael Neill There's always less to do than you think.....it's a phrase I seem to end up using on nearly every client call. And my experience more...

The ‘Control-Freakery’ of Anxiety

If you're reading this, chances are you've recognised you're a control freak, and many people around you may have lovingly pointed out the same. But you've probably never connected that to your feelings of stress and anxiety before. Here's a short explanation as to...

Stop Trying To Have A Pink And Fluffy Life

It's become incredibly apparent to me recently just how much time, energy, effort and often money we put into trying to create a 'pink, fluffy life' where everything is 'sorted' and we are finally happy. But what if we've got the 'goal' completely wrong? In this video...

What’s A ‘Thought Storm’?

Imagine this if you possibly can (it probably doesn't apply to any of you though ha ha).... You know the feeling, you're having a good time out for day with your family. The sun is shining, everyone's behaving (even the dog) and you've got NOTHING to do except hang...

What if you already ‘had it’?

Here’s an interesting exercise – play along with me… Step One: I want you to ask you about your something you'd like to achieve in the next 12 months. For the sake of an example we can probably all relate to - pick a money goal. What would you LOVE to bring in the...

100% reliable, 98% unpredictable

One night last week I was awake worrying about a decision. I had two options: I could go this way or that. This way would result in either a huge success or financial ruin. And so would the other. I'd been thinking about this problem for months. Decision time was...

3am Thinking

My kids all started new schools last September - two at the local primary school, one into the second year of the local senior school. Every night that week at 3am the week before they started I was woken up with these thoughts: "My youngest will come home on the...

Meet Bob – he lives in your head…

This post is a mix of inspirations from Michael Neill and Dr Aaron Turner and my personal interpretation of them (apologies if I've stretched this metaphor into something neither of them originally intended!). Imagine there's a board of directors in your head....