A little peace of mind

about us

nicola bird

Over twenty years ago, at university, I started to experience anxiety and then panic attacks. I had no idea what started them off, all I knew was that I would suddenly find myself with a tight chest, sweaty palms and a racing heart for what seemed like no reason at all.

I have always pushed myself to be a massive over-achiever so I put it down to exam pressure as I studied for my Psychology Degree. I ended up being prescribed medication and needing my own examination room to get through the final exams.

But then they continued after I finished my studies. The gnawing sense of anxiety would vanish for months on end and then reappear when I was least expecting it.

I landed myself a corporate job but then after the 9/11 terrorist attacks in the US found myself unable to travel on trains or tubes. I was unable to get to work and often had to make up excuses and lies about why I couldn’t attend my Psychology Masters Degree lectures – they were in the centre of London and impossible for me to get to.

My world started to shrink in size.

Eventually, when I became pregnant with my first child, I found myself unable to even leave the house for weeks at a time. Not even to put the bins out at the end of the driveway.

I tried medication, seeing a psychiatrist, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, various other well-known methods, NLP, time-line therapy and tapping. I studied more psychology, got into personal development and trained as a coach – I just wanted my anxiety to be gone.

Nothing worked. I’d find myself back to ‘normal’ for a while, and then I’d go through months of feeling panicky all the time.

 

I still kept pushing myself, started my own business so I could work from the safety of my own home and took it from zero to seven figures in just under four years before I finally burned out, fully consumed with agoraphobia and migraines.

Then, in 2013, I stumbled across a completely new way of understanding how human beings create their experience of anxiety and how to dissolve it almost effortlessly.

A completely revolutionary approach that I had never come across before in all my years of training.

I have spent the last six years travelling all around the world (yes me, the agoraphobic!)  studying with the pioneers in this field to gain a deeper understanding of this thing that had completely transformed my life in a matter of just a few weeks.

And now my life’s work is to share what I’ve learned that made such a huge difference to me and the lives of the people I love.

Qualifications: BSc Psycholgy, MSc Psychology, Master Transformative Coach, author of the book A Little Peace of Mind and personally now completely free from anxiety.

Tanya Elfersy

Tanya Elfersy is our perimenopause and menopause specialist.

At the age of 43, Tania felt like she was falling apart. She was catching all the kiddie viruses her three young children were bringing home from school, and she was experiencing frequent migraines, eczema, skin outbreaks, hair loss, night sweats, severe mood swings…to name just a few of her symptoms.

Desperate to feel like her old self again, Tania tried acupuncture, Bach remedies, potions and supplements, healing, kinesiology and more.

Then one day, Tania heard about perimenopause – the up to ten-year period of change that occurs prior to menopause. Tania’s symptoms began to make sense just because they were so common among 40-something women. But as she researched more about midlife change, what didn’t make sense to Tania was that she should blame her symptoms on her hormones.

Tania’s knowledge about perimenopause and menopause deepened over the years as she became more determined to discover why a natural part of our life-cycle could cause such havoc among so many women. When Tania came across the principles of innate health, she was able to understand women’s experiences at midlife on a whole different level. Soon, all of Tania’s physical and emotional symptoms simply disappeared.

That was back in 2015. Since then, Tania has been sharing what she has seen about midlife women’s health with women worldwide.

Tania is a transformative coach. She is also the co-author of an award-winning book on motherhood and an upcoming book on perimenopause and menopause.

You can listen to Tania in our podcast here: http://alittlepeaceofmind.co.uk/podcast/episode-22-anxiety-and-the-menopause-with-tania-elfersy/

certified little peace of mind practitioners

Nicola and Tanya both provide 1:1 coaching and the details of those packages can be found here.

In addition, we also have a small number of certified Little Peace of Mind Practitioners who have completed an intensive training program with Nicola and now support our Little Peace of Mind clients as independent coaches. Please find a short introduction to each of them below and contact them directly to find out more about their coaching arrangements and rates.

They all come highly recommended 🙂

Vicki Montague

A Little Peace of Mind Certified Practitioner

Vicki recalls being a worrier from an early age. During her time at University it got worse and led to a racing heart and insomnia that were managed with medication.

Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) and other symptoms such as headaches, eczema and food intolerances followed.

She continued to live life fully but the self-doubt and worry that had plagued her life came back with vengeance.

There was nothing in her external life to cause anxiety or worry. She had created her own business, the Free From Fairy, and lived within the limits she had placed on herself in order to not become stressed and overwhelmed.

But something still felt wrong.

After many years of searching and studying (NLP and counselling) she finally came across the Three Principles.

Immediately she felt lighter, although she didn’t fully understand why for many months afterwards. Finally she realised that she no longer needed to take her thoughts seriously. Her life immediately became more peaceful

Since then she has trained with Nicola Bird and John El Mokadem to become a Three Principles Practitioner/coach. She works with children and adults who have restricted their lives, either physically or mentally, to reconnect them to their innate wisdom. This in turn allows people to live a life of freedom, love and peace.

To learn more about Vicki and her coaching, please click here.

laura white

A Little Peace of Mind Certified Practitioner

Laura experienced panic attacks and depression on and off for the last 15 years and as life has happened; infertility, losing jobs, numerous failed relationships, her symptoms worsened. 10 months ago, Laura found herself out of work and unable to leave the house as she was paralyzed with fear and anxiety.

That is when she came across A Little Peace Of Mind and the programs here and in her own words, is ‘amazed at how much my life has transformed!’

Laura finds herself living life fully with a successful job at LinkedIn, traveling to foreign countries, new friends and a new relationship all with the knowledge that even if these things had not happened, then she would still have peace of mind.

Laura works with clients that are stuck in their incessant thinking and believe life circumstances cause their anxiety. She offers hope by helping navigate through life much easier and she can point you to where clarity and peace of mind really resides. Laura can do that because she has been there too.
To find out more about working with Laura, please visit

julie cluley

A Little Peace of Mind Certified Practitioner

For most of her adult life Julie experienced the world as a very very busy place, full of things that “should” be done and “needed” to be done, usually with an underlying sense of urgency. 
As she reached her mid-thirties she was happily married with 2 gorgeous kids and a job she absolutely loved as a dog behaviour coach. 

To anyone who knew Julie then, they would think she had it all. However, for much of the time she was really struggling with feelings of being constantly busy, overwhelmed, and this ever present sense of urgency. It was awful and seemed to be getting progressively worse as she entered into peri-menopause. 

Julie would love to help you put the joy, fun and laughter back in your life.
Have you ever noticed how dogs live for now and never let anything get them down for long? This is what is on offer for all of us.  Exploring this understanding, perhaps with your dog to guide you, is truly the most magical of journeys. Julie is here to help you to live your life exactly the way you want to.

Julie tried everything from a variety of different supplements, improved diet, more exercise, a million different self help books and counselling sessions. All of these did help to some degree, but she still seemed to be on a downward spiral until she realised there was literally no joy left in her life. Julie was thinner, fitter and had pretty much everything she had ever aimed for, but still felt awful. Then the guilt kicked in; how could she have all those things and still be so miserable? She started to suffer from insomnia, panic attacks, paranoia that her friends no longer liked her, feelings that she was an awful mum, arguing with her husband and even the job she loved so much had started to become a chore.

Julie couldn’t understand what was ‘wrong’ with her and genuinely thought she was going mad.

In September 2018 she bumped into the ALPOM website and the 3 principles.  Julie’s experience of life changed almost overnight. She now lives life from a much calmer, relaxed and joyful place. The best thing for Julie is that nothing actually changed. She still has the same lovely husband, same gorgeous kids and the same amazing job helping clients improve their relationship with their dogs.

To find out more about working with Julie – please visit 

kathryn bonney

A Little Peace of Mind Certified Practitioner

Three years ago, Kathryn was done.

The baby that was supposed to magically fix it did not actually make her life better.Her family was on the verge of bankruptcy for a second time, and the move halfway across the country away from friends and family had only made things worse.

She had already called the divorce attorney and was ready to file paperwork. Certain that single parenting was the next chapter of the drama called her life.

The problem, as best she could tell, was her. And there was not anything she could to make it any better.

No matter what small glimpses of hope she had over the years, nothing ever really changed.

Not for a lack of trying- if there was an answer, she had done her best to find it.

Personal (CBT) therapy, EFT, NLP, group therapy, self help workshops, amanae, hypnosis, Feng Shui, jnana yoga, psychic readings, vipassana meditation, Buddhism, Maori healers, Imago therapy, oils, personal development training, A Course In Miracles, and basically every self help book ever published by Hay House- all directions she looked.

Every cure, fix, technique, tool, or explanation was explored, desperate in her efforts to make it okay.

Finally she decided that if her life was destined to be unhappy, if this was as good as it was going to get, then she might as well do it on her own. Being married was certainly not helping.

Motherhood had taken her lifelong semi-manageable anxiety and pushed her over the edge.

Isolated and depressed, the illusion of holding it together fell apart without friends and family to cover for her.

She struggled with the basic care of her children, drowning in her own mind, adrift in the negativity and helplessness.

Then, by sheer chance, she came across the understanding and a conversation about how life really works.

A weekend intensive pointed her in a new direction, with clarity and simplicity she had never felt before.

The insight simple- you are not broken.

Truth landed so completely that the impact was felt in every area.

Life started to change- the picture slowly improving.

Diving deep into the conversation, Kathryn spent 18 months studying with Michael Neill- seeing how to create the impossible and explore even more. The opportunity to train with Nicola Bird and join ALPOM a natural transition when coaching others became the next step in the journey.

The last twelve months have been the best year of Kathryn’s life. Sharing her grounding as a coach. Getting present to her three children and completely falling in love. Seeing her husband of 16 years transform before her very eyes (spoilers: it was never him). And having insights about her own experience of life. Getting off the sidelines and playing the game full out.

Drastic.

That was the word Kathryn’s husband uses to describe the changes he has seen in the last three years.

Happy.

How Kathryn describes it for herself.

The feeling of life has changed, the freedom to simply experience what is and enjoy the present moment is what she shares in her coaching. Getting curious and listening deeply is how she shows up. A mirror to see yourself clearly the offer.

Kathryn can be reached at

susana vilmer

A Little Peace of Mind Certified Practitioner

Susana was born in Mexico and moved to the US on her own after high school. Her studies took her to various places in the US  like Nevada, Texas, California, New Jersey and New York, where she received her bachelor’s in Social Work and master’s in Public Administration.  From an early age Susana pushed herself to be an overachiever and she suffered a great deal of anxiety as she advanced in her career. 

 

She spent a lot of time feeling worried, stressed and fearful about the future.  It just seemed that nothing ever satisfied her and it was difficult to stay grounded. She constantly felt self doubt and insecure thinking, which kept her stuck in her life for many years.

For years, Susana trained with many mentors and coaches in the spiritual and human development field to address her anxiety and gain a deeper understanding of the world of energy and spirituality.

She became a Certified Spiritual Practitioner and Energy Mindfulness Master Coach; and obtained several  other certifications throughout her  journey.

However, while these training programs  helped her a great deal, there was still that feeling of dissatisfaction that  kept her seeking for answers.

That’s when Susana came across the 3 Principles and was profoundly touched by working with Nicola Bird and other 3 Principles mentors.

Susana started to feel content in her life again  and her anxious and scary feelings started to dissipate.  These series of events inspired her to become A Little Peace of Mind Practitioner.

Susana knows how hard it is to move forward in life when you’re filled with worry, fear and uncertainty because she has had these same experiences.

Unfortunately, Susana  missed so many great opportunities in life because of her insecurities, which turned into a vicious cycle that kept her stuck.

That’s why Susana is so passionate about helping others who are scared about their life path and are unable to answer their true calling.

With her coaching programs, Susana guides women how to connect with their own wisdom in order to release fears that prevent them from living on purpose and have more confidence and success in life.

To learn more about working with Susana, please visit: 

Ruth Harris

A Little Peace of Mind Certified Practitioner

Ruth struggled for most of her life, with feelings of insecurity and anxiety;  never feeling good enough, constantly searching for ways to be a better version of herself and keeping herself small. 

Ruth had been holding on so tight to “controlling” all aspects of her life, being afraid of her experience, believing this to be the only way to get her through each single moment of the day.  
In fact, Ruth describes herself as a recovering control freak.. “If there was a control freaks anonymous, I would have certainly been one of their founding members!”.

Ruth created a world, so perfectly curated that those around her did not notice that inside, she was panicking! The physical signs would be; the heart palpitations, sleepless nights, continuous worrying, constant mood swings, which ultimately led to a more serious health diagnoses.

So Ruth went in search of an answer and having always been fascinated in how the mind works, graduated in Psychology and spent her corporate career focused on how the mind works and human behaviour.

That learning triggered Ruth’s continued curiosity in how life is experienced, eventually leading her to the work of Sydney Banks and the three principles. 

What Ruth discovered in that understanding is that she had “innocently” been making it all up!. What she saw was that her whole experience of life was like a fictional story, no more real than the storylines in Harry Potter.  

What Ruth now knows, is that there is an easier way to life;
One that allows us to grab hold of new opportunities, letting go of the need to feel in control. To not be afraid of our experience. To live with more ease and calm, more humour and loving relationships, more creativity and productivity and to know that no matter what the circumstances, no matter what life may throw at us, we will be alright. 

Ruth truly believes this understanding can change the world. Huge statement she knows, but if we all knew the true nature of thought and where our experience comes from, it would not make sense to look for the separation, not make sense to divide people based on past experiences or where they come from or what they believe. 

Ruth has actively searched out the leading practitioners in this field and trained under Nicola Bird to become an ALPOM practitioner. 

and the rest of the team

anna baldock

A Little Peace of Mind Community Manager

Anna experienced panic attacks and anxiety in her 20’s and started to have trouble sleeping. The anxiety and insomnia would come and go, managed by medication and avoiding certain situations and activities, but in 2011, after the birth of her daughter, both came back with a vengeance. She stopped sleeping altogether and was treated by her doctor for Post Natal Depression and chronic insomnia. She was prescribed anti depressants and sleep medication and began the long search for a cure for her insomnia. After managing her sleeplessness for years with medication, bedtime routines and rules, counselling, CBT, hypnosis, herbs, meditation and avoiding a never ending list of activities that might interfere with her ability to sleep, she stopped sleeping again in March 2019. After a week of no sleep, she was eventually taken to hospital by her husband. Unable to cope with life, she ended up living at her parents house away from her family too anxious to sleep, eat or hold a conversation.

Out of the blue she was recommended a book called ‘The Inside Out Revolution’ by Michael Neill and then stumbled across Alpom through a video of Nicola she saw on her Facebook feed. She signed up for the Little Peace of Mind program and after years of struggling to fix herself she began to gradually gain insights into how life worked and who she really was. The rules and routines that had been in place for years to control her sleep gradually began to fall away and her belief that she was somehow broken was replaced with a knowing that she was not and never could be. She is now medication free and enjoying the excitement and freedom of living a full life, no longer limited and controlled by the fear and anxiety of not sleeping. She lives happily in London with her husband and daughter, is back in her job teaching primary children and is finally fulfilling her lifelong dream to take classes in ceramics.

terri homyard

A Little Peace of Mind Customer Support

After struggling with anxiety and a severe sickness phobia on and off for 23 years, Terri wishes that she had come across Nicola sooner.  Since working as part of the ALPOM support team and being introduced to the 3 Principles via Nicola – it feels like the final part of the puzzle fell into place for her.  She now feels that she has the tools that she needs to navigate her day to day life and is enjoying her new freedom.

When Terri is not working, she loves to spend time with the people that she loves – her husband, her three terrific children, her mum and her friends.  If you ask her where her happy place is – it’s either sunbathing by a pool or at the cinema. 

Education is extremely important to Terri and she believes we should never stop learning.

sam trim

A Little Peace of Mind Customer Support

Sam is part of the ALPOM support team and has been ‘around’ the 3 Principles since 2013, however, never really paid attention to how it could really help until a few years later.

As a wife and a mother of three, the Principles have helped Sam to be more understanding, to take a step back during times when her mind is busy and struggling to focus, and to trust that when she is presented with something, that she will know what she needs to do in that moment.

Sam  loves to spend time with her husband, three children and a glass of pinot noir!