A LITTLE PEACE OF MIND
Freedom from anxiety, panic attacks and stress
Are You limiting Your Life?
We all experience anxiety from time to time – we’re human beings after all.
But if those feelings of fear, anxiety and even panic are starting to restrict your freedom, please know you don’t have to live your life that way.
Imagine if you didn’t have to limit your life because of your fear.
Take a moment to think what it would be like if you didn’t have to control every element of your life in order to ‘manage’ the fear.
You’ll probably be experiencing some of the following….
- Sweaty palms and a racing heart mean you avoid the places, people and things that seem to cause it.
- You’re angry at yourself because you lack the confidence to do the the things other people seem to do so effortlessly.
- You feel guilty as if you’re letting your husband/wife and kids down because of your fears.
- You’ve had at least one panic attack and you’ll do anything to make sure it doesn’t happen again
But most importantly…
You notice your world is a whole lot smaller than it was a year ago.
You may have noticed you’re also a control freak….
…but you may not have connected that with your anxiety.
After all your anxiety may take the form of panic attacks, going too far from home, worrying obsessively about your loved ones, being terrified of small spaces, or having sales conversations (amongst a whole range of possibilities).
What’s that got to do with your control freakery?
For years I justified making my world smaller and I thought my attempts to control my business success, my team and my family was relieving my anxiety.
Instead it was the fact that I thought I had to be in control that was at the very root of it.
Your control freakery is NOT helping you with your feelings of anxiety and panic, instead it can be the root of fear, stress, burnout and sleeplessness.
What’s more it, you can end up with you limiting your world to a fraction of it’s size in order that you can feel like you can control every part of it.
You’re not alone
of people in the Uk will experience mental health issues this year
of the UK population affected by anxiety at any time
more likely to be diagnosed with mental health issues if you are a woman
of people struggling with anxiety turn to alcohol to 'help'
Did you even realise you were doing that?
Imagine if you didn’t have to control every element of your life in order to ‘manage’ the anxiety that comes up if you don’t.
What could you do that you’re too anxious to do? Leave the house? Grow your business without being a scaredy-pants all the time? Change careers? Go for that promotion? Truly relax and/or do that adventurous stuff with your kids?
Imagine if you could stop doing all those things you feel like you need to do to ‘feel in control’ like staying close to home, having to know who will ‘rescue’ you if you dissove into a panic, obsessively checking you have your phone with you, ‘just in case’.
What opportunities could you love to say ‘yes’ to that you’re so used to saying ‘no’ to that you’ve forgotten ‘yes’ is even an option?
How would it feel to play full out and fearless?
Not to ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’ but to be truly fearless?
There is a way to experience the total freedom that comes when anxiety drops away and it’s simpler than you think.
My name is Nicola Bird and I’m living proof that it’s possible
After 25 years studying psychology and 10 years coaching clients, I stumbled across this completely revolutionary way of resolving anxiety.
The work that I do with clients now is to share with them a simple understanding that transformed my life, melted away my anxiety and means I’m able to play the game of life in a much bigger way and ditch the control freak.
It doesn’t require you to ‘go outside your comfort zone’, it doesn’t require you to ‘face your fears’.
No controlling your state of mind or strategies to ‘control’ your anxiety. No relaxation and breathing techniques, no visualisations and monitoring your thoughts.
I’m free to travel where-ever I choose (my dog is loving the longer walks!), motorways, once impossible for me, no longer scare me, my migraines are a thing of the past and that underlying feeling of panic that was constantly at the back of my mind has completely disappeared.
Instead I experience a peace of mind. And best of all, my kids’ lives are no longer limited by my feelings of anxiety and I get to show up as a ‘normal’ mum with them.
Sound impossible? Yes, it did to me too, but I’m living proof that you don’t have to continue to live your life like a control freak in order to manage and cope with your anxiety.
That’s why I created A Little Peace of Mind.
Here’s what Denise had to say about joining the program
“In this moment I am very grateful for that simple message that came through to me yesterday from a friend with the link to Nicola for this group. I just listened to the first audio . I am sitting here as my day begins crying. Not because I am sad, just very grateful to have been guided here.
22 years ago I suffered through severe depression and PTSD and survived 3 suicide attempts. The last one they restarted my heart. I went for 1 year not leaving my home unless I absolutely had to.
I came out of it, learned to cope, built a life for me within which I was safe. I drove, went places, laughed and lived. Than slowly the fears and anxiety came back . I do not know what triggered it, all I know is that my world has become smaller and smaller once again. I am happy and very successful in what I do . I can work from home and I can pretend that all is well in my little tiny world. As long as I live within the bubble I have created.”
“I have ventured outside of my home for a sleep over with my grand babies, we have started having play days where we go and have an adventure. I was able to leave and go to their birthday parties. More important I did not freak out on the drive, nor did I was to run and hide. I had and am having days of joy . Wow that has been a long time coming. I am waking up happy in the morning now , looking forward to what the day will bring.
I live in Canada and guess what? I am planing a trip to Ireland this fall with a friend. This coming from a lady who has not even gone out and done her own groceries in over two years. Oh I forgot and this is huge, i went clothes shopping
So one breath at a time … one baby step at a time … one new page each day along our journeys. We’ve got this and we are not alone. My heart is full of gratitude.
Nicola, you really have no idea how much you have and are helping. Thank you dear heart xox”
"If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world." Sydney Banks
How does it work?
The next intake of A Little Peace of Mind starts on Monday 15th January 2018.
We work together for 12 weeks: each week I’ll send you a short Mini-Masterclass that will show you the path to freedom from anxiety.
There are no tasks, no techniques and no homework – just simply watch the video and reflect on what you’ve heard.
Each video is also available as an audio and also downloads directly to your phone so you can listen on the go if that’s more your style.
Then, each Monday at 3pm Eastern/8pm UK you’ll be invited to join me for a live weekly group coaching call online where you can ask questions, get some coaching or simply listen in as others do – everyone in the group is up against the same thing and often hearing the insights of others can shift things for you.
It’s incredibly simple to join – just click the link in the email I’ll send out to you – no phone charges and you don’t need to leave your home.
We also have a private (optional) Facebook Group where you can also ask questions and share your breakthroughs as you move through the program and I’m in there nearly every day to support you.
How do I know this will work?
Good question, especially as my guess is you’ve tried everything else you can find to shift this problem.
Here’s my answer. If you’ find yourself drawn to this page, it’s already ‘working’ 🙂 You’ve heard something inside you that is pulling you towards health. The aim of this program is to continue that journey – through the facilitation of your own insights.
Can we guarantee you’ll get the insight you want during the next 12 weeks?
Will being in this conversation considerably tilt the odds in your favour.
And here’s my promise to you. If you decide to join the program and at the end of the twelve weeks you’re not completely happy that you did, I will refund you 100%.
What is the cost to join the program?
The Little Peace of Mind 12 Week Program is £297.
What if I can't make the weekly calls?
The weekly coaching calls run at 3pm Eastern/ 8pm UK each Monday.
If you can’t make the calls live, don’t worry, there will a replay of each call available within 24 hours.
How is this different from anything I've already tried?
Everything else I’ve personally come across in this field is an attempt to help us deal with our anxious thinking.
As long as we keep tapping, saying our affirmations, doing the scary stuff anyway or meditating, we can hold the anxiety at bay.
That is exhausting.
What I do is different in that I point you in a direction upstream of your anxious thinking. To what’s actually causing it.
Understand and resolve that and bam! No techniques required.
I promise you there is ALWAYS less to do than you think.
Which should come as a relief – you control freak! ( said with love as a recovered one)
What's your professional background?
I have a BSC in Psychology and an MSC in Occupational Psychology.
I’m a trained Advanced Transformational Coach and have been coaching individuals for over eleven years.
But I believe what’s more relevant is I’ve been where you’re at. And I’m 100% through the other side.
It’s this combination that I believe makes what I have to offer you unique and valuable.
I still have questions
Sandra's anxiety was all around going to shops, to other busy places and just seeing other people.
James experienced chronic and severe anxiety which he thought was a result of the traffic noise outside of his house.
Emma felt extremely uncomfortable leaving her house, hard when you have 2 small children.
After a life time of anxiety (I'm now 46) I feel I hit a peak last year where I knew if I didn't find someway of getting better then I really was looking a t a terminal condition. I tried so many techniques, but all of them wore me out - when you said in week one that there was nothing I really had to do I nearly cried with relief!
I have been so tired of trying to control this thing. Who knew that just relinquishing control could make such a difference. My anxiety was triggered by world events - when I get I'll I check the news up to fifty times an hour.
This trigger will hopefully explain to you why 2016 ended up being so bloody awful for me (it was a pretty shit year for ' normal' folk!) However, now as the world is apparently still going bonkers, I am alright. I check the news, and keep myself informed like a normal person .
When I do see an alarming headline, which would have previously sent me into panic and despair, I am able to think ' It's all ok.’
I cannot tell you how wonderful this is! Just like you I am grateful for the horrors of my anxiety because I am really appreciating how amazing normal feels! I have come this far in just five of your sessions! I am so excited about what is to come!!
Thank you xxxJanet
Nicola, something is changing! I can't get my head round this but I've driven over 100 miles up the motorway today, overtaking lorries all the way. First one was a bit wobbly, but after that I settled and was fine. I don't think I've done anything other than a bit of letting the thought pass. I'm so happy to have been able to do this today.Carey
This is your own journey so you will travel at your own speed. You will choose different stops as you go and may reach your destination sooner or later than others but it is not a race.
I have achieved more toward freedom in this programme than I have with medication, counselling, CBT, and many other forms of treatment and though I haven't stopped my medication or other treatment they have become less important.
I've had a year of being "self restricted" to my house and crippled with depression and anxiety.
Being part of this conversation enabled me to leave my house alone at only week 6 of the programe. I did it again at week 7.
Now I'm at week 8 and understand so much more about my own anxiety and I see little glimmers of me that give me hope. I recommend an open mind and stick with the programme even if you don't get it.....you will.Allie
I joined this program knowing I was being led by my anxieties in life and not experiencing freedom of choice. What Nicola showed me was how I was missing a piece of understanding, so simple and yet so profound. It has been a wonder filled journey and it was a sheer relief to be guided along the way in such an easygoing manner with no judgement whatsoever. I would recommend this program to anybody wanting a deeper understanding of how every human being experiences life and how to enjoy the ride of life along the way! A heartfelt thank you to NicolaKiran
So this morning an amazing thing happened.
I had to get to St Pancras station and I agreed to 'try' to go on the tube - Victoria line from Vauxhall.
7 stops deep underground.
A few brief moments of discomfort but no panic.
Can't believe it. 6 weeks ago I wouldn't have entertained the idea.
Thank you so much Nicola you really have changed my life xAnita
Just wanted to share positive results after week 1!!
I've had anxiety for the past 5 years resulting from a health issue that has now gone but left me fearful. This is very restricting . I fear going out far from home, trains, planes, busy places, work ( feel stuck until 5pm, what if I feel panic and can't leave) and my worst fear is night time.
This means, I don't go out at night. I only work part time. I don't travel far and when I leave the house I have to have all kind of pills on me incase I feel unwell. Always need water and a portable phone charger.
THIS IS amazing... I watched the first video. Felt like something clicked. Went to London a few days later to visit friends for the weekend. No anxiety on the train, no anxiety walking around London. I felt so good I asked my friend if we could go to the pub in the eve. I was amazed. Felt like I was in the moment and didn't think. Or at least... I didn't pay too much attention to my thoughts. Thanks, I hope things will stay like this