I don’t have to be calm to go places

This post is by our guest blogger and Little Peace of Mind graduate, Amie Joof.

Here Amie shares her story of change…..

Five months ago I couldn’t leave my house, today I went into work for a visit. I’ve worked there for 3 and a half years since I was 16, working as a support worker for elderly people with severe disabilities.

I’ve been off of work for a year, with SO much thinking about it. I really believed my job defined me and made me who I was. I believed that if I never had that job I wasn’t good enough and I had no purpose.

I woke up today and looked at the date, it’s my key service users’ birthday (all colleagues are assigned to work with a certain individual 1:1) I’ve worked with him for years and he turned 70 today, he means the absolute world to me. I really, really wanted to see him, but I was nervous about going back for the first time in a year.. but I went.

I’ve learnt that I don’t have to be calm to go places. I can go anxious too. So I did. I don’t let feelings run my life anymore. I used to not go places if I was anxious about it, now I go regardless.

A few months ago I was thinking of things to make up in case my colleagues asked if I have a new job yet, I was embarrassed to say I wasn’t working. Yet today, when they asked what I was doing with myself I held my head high and said “I’m taking time for me, exploring and discovering new things everyday and having a break.” And they all smiled and said that’s great.

I had an amazing day, it felt great being at work again and although I was only visiting and I’ve been off for a year, I was still reacting to things as if I’d been there yesterday! I was still helping clients drink their drinks and helping them get from one place to another, because wisdom is always there no matter what, I never forgot anything. How amazing.

I’m so grateful for this understanding.