Here’s how Vivienne introduces her story:
“When I was about to turn 30, I left my marriage (I’d only been married for 15 months – scandalous) and after returning to NZ from Australia where I’d been living, I settled in to my new life. I fell in love with a man much older than me, who had already had his family and didn’t want any more children. We went round the houses for a long time – I had hope that he would change his mind as he loved me so much (I didn’t doubt he loved me) but nothing was happening. In amongst being the happiest I’d ever been in a relationship, I was also miserable because I couldn’t see a happy ending – I was either going to have to ‘settle for a lesser life’ without children, or I had to end the relationship with someone I truly loved and wanted in my life. These were my perceived choices. I was driving myself mad and driving us apart. And no one ever told me there was any other way to feel.
One day, I had the insight: “I have no idea what my future will look like”. I had made up two options and neither of them looked appealing, but the truth was I had no idea.
When I came across the Principles in 2009, I realised what had really happened when I had that realisation, and a whole lot of other realisations followed in its footsteps. I realised there was nothing to be scared of – I was no longer scared of my own emotions or of my thoughts. This was HUGE. I also realised I didn’t have to do something ‘instead of having children’ to prove my worth or value in the world. The void I had thought existed in my life where children should have been, disappeared without a trace (because of course, I’d made it up in the first place, and once I saw it for what it was, it dissolved of its own accord).
Now I freaking love my life, and when I look back, all that thinking seems so foreign to me. But it’s such a wonderful example for me as I see how innocently we get caught up in the world of thought that’s been created, when we don’t see it for what it is.”
Listen to her story and you’ll hear the myriad of ways that we make up that we’re not complete, just as we are in this moment.
You can find out more about Vivienne on her website here: https://vivienneedgecombe.com/
And buy her book on Amazon here:
Joe Bailey is a psychologist and author of some of the most life-changing books I have read.
He is also a pioneer of this understanding and has been sharing and teaching since his encounter with Syd Banks in 1980.
In today’s episode Joe talks about how addictions are created and how although there’s nothing to do to find peace of mind, there still might be something that needs doing. Listen. It will make sense when you do!
He also talks about his recovery from Lyme disease – after suffering with pain, memory loss and exhaustion and having been told he’d never be well again; he had one simple insight that meant that today he is completely healthy and well.
You can find Joe’s website here: http://www.joebaileyandassociates.com/
His upcoming program Uncovering Resilience in Addiction Recovery can be found here: https://threeprinciplessupermind.com/product/uncovering-resilience-in-addiction-recovery/
And his Healing Power of the Mind series can be found here; http://www.joebaileyandassociates.com/news—events.html
Dicken Bettinger is currently my own mentor in this conversation about how all human beings really work.
Today we talk about how incredibly simple it is to drop out of our frantic busy thinking, to stop trying to figure life out and how to be at peace no matter what is going on in your thinking.
As one of my clients, who was invited to listen in on the call, remarked at the end of the creation of this: “Dicken is like happiness in form’.
If you’ve heard the expression: Listen for the feeling – you’ll understand what that actually means after virtually hanging out with Dicken for the next hour.
You can find out more about Dicken, his video and upcoming events by visiting his website here: http://3principlesmentoring.com/index.html